I lived in NJ for a long time and as a matter of fact many other places all over the world and I am use to seeing people saying hello when a person enter into a house with an activity going on. Everyone says something. It really does not matter what activity or where it is located, people will acknowledge that the person is there. It really does not matter if the person is a familiar person or a stranger that just stopped by because they were invited; people in NJ and everywhere else I have been do not act like they cannot see you. So let me explain a little further… within the group of people many will say hello and will encourage a person to join in the group, and will talk to the person within the first min or so when a person has entered through the door, this seems to not be the case in Colorado.
Now here in Colorado I feel like I am missing the memo. Is there an unwritten rule or is it just me that is noticing such a difference in the time of when to say hello? Quite frankly I think it’s all about respect for a person one should be polite and say hello and welcome the person into whatever is going on but then again I might be missing the memo.
In Colorado this is what I have experience on many many occasions without fail, except, for one household just recently within the year that I have lived here. And this is what usually happens every time… I arrive at the place I am invited to (yep I was invited so that is checked off) I am not too early, I am not too late (but I have tried arriving early or arriving late and there is no difference by the way). I ring the bell or knock. A person opens the door they say hey they leave right away and go do something. I take off my shoes as a polite thing to do (oh wait it could not be my feet right? NO! I know they smell fine), then I walk in I smile I try to wave even, and what happens people look right at me and you might guessed it, they pretend nothing happened (like if I never smile wave or look interested in what is going on) hmmm... So after about 10-15mins of wondering why I am even there in the first place and if I should just walk back out and go home someone finally says something (an no it’s not the person who invited me and meet me at the door) Now for me 10 to 15min of being in a room with no one saying anything to ya is a very long time. Everything goes well after that but it sure makes me wonder and think, are they thinking to themselves Someone Has to Say It so someone finally says Hi and make conversation within the group 10 to 15min’s later. Really, is this the custom for people who live in Colorado? Am I missing the memo? Or is it just me? Has anyone else ever experienced this or does this happen all the time and no one notices?
Its just what it is---
